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Building Bravery, Daring to Set Goals

Goal-setting can be crunchy.

Our resistance to change can be so strong that we don't even dare to SET goals.

If we struggle to establish goals, it's hard to plan for them, let alone take action on them - so, we can end up feeling frustrated in our ability to turn longings into goals and goals into realities.

Do you relate? Read on to build bravery when it comes to your goals…

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How Coaching Can Help You Navigate Conflict

Conflict is such rich terrain for growth and for expanding our resources of self-trust, self-belief, self-worth and self-acceptance.

Conflict often brings up core psychological risks, including judgment, criticism, rejection, and loss.

No matter how 'modern' our times, we are social primates that experience security in attachment and belonging. Conflict often feels threatening…

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On Sustenance, Humility & Pacing Ourselves

My kids recently missed two weeks of school due to mild but relentless illness, and we were in a slog of clinic calls, tracking fevers and medicine doses, cuddling, shuffling work schedules: doing what we needed to do to manage a tough stretch!

I know that many people are overwhelmed these days, and I want to offer sustaining resources and tips for restoration if you're feeling depleted at the moment…

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End of January Vibes: Aspirational vs Actual

Here's what I'm hearing lately: 

People wishing that they were feeling peppy, motivated and making powerful headway with meaningful new projects and goals.

But truthfully feeling tired, 'already behind,' and a little dismayed at how much they want to veg out.

If you relate: you're not alone - read on for encouragement…

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SOS! Ready for Change. Do I Need a Life Coach or a Therapist?

Are you ready for change and wondering if coaching or therapy might help?

Are are unclear about the differences between a life coach and a therapist?

In this blog, I’ll offer a brief outline regarding some benefits and limits of coaching and therapy to help you get clear on the guidance that might best suit you.

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The Road to Uncovering Your North Star

Do you experience self-doubt or sometimes feel stuck or frustrated as you try to bring your goals to life?

Do you sense that some elements of your life are not in alignment with your deepest longings, values and potential?

In my 20's and 30's, decision-making and creating a clear life path was pretty excruciating for me. It took me a dang WHILE to feel like I was actually adulting - and the journey to get there was painful.

About 14 months months ago, I was interviewed by Stephenie Zamora on her Tales from the Journey Podcast.

It was a rich conversation and I'd love to share it with you.

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Emergence from a Difficult Season

Are you coming out of a difficult life chapter?

Do you feel tender or bruised right now?

Has your life tumbled apart and you’re sorting out how to reassemble all the scattered puzzle pieces - possibly saturated with grief and bewilderment at the impossible process?

Is it as though an old version of yourself is gone and you’re trying to figure out who you are now?

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A Stinky Carpet and the Power of Verbs & Baby Steps

For the first month of living in our new home, every time I've walked by the room that will eventually be our cozy den, I've hated catching a waft of stank.

The prior owners had a dog and the old carpet in that room was rank and nasty, no matter how much cross breeze drifted through the space.

We've been so busy cleaning, unpacking boxes, and juggling meals, work, laundry, and parenting that we kept delaying on pulling up that carpet - but every time I traipsed by, I was disgusted by its odour.

If you've got something on your to-do list that you keep avoiding or that feels overwhelming, read on...

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Navigating a Season of Illness & Stress

I’ve been quiet for a while.

For much of the summer and early fall, I stopped blogging, creating videos, emailing my newsletter, even sharing much on my personal Facebook and Instagram accounts.

It’s mostly because, for the past three months, I’ve been ‘Covid long-hauling.’

After experiencing my original onset of symptoms back in March - exactly one week after attending an international conference - and feeling much better in the spring, I started feeling unwell again in July.

I haven’t had one full day since then when I have felt like ‘my old self:’ high energy or symptom-free.

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Are you a Dreamer, A Planner or a Doer?

Do you ever wonder why some of your dreams and desires seem to remain chronically frustrated or elusively out of reach?

Maybe you've been trying to start a running routine for months or longing for a new career, home, romantic partner, or bank account for years...

There are usually myriad reasons we get blocked, of course (both internal and external / personal and systemic) - but I'd love to share a few clues as to what can sometimes get in our way.


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Letting Go of Normal...

As always, I hope this finds you and your loved ones safe and well.

Here we are, just a little past the three week mark since the Covid19 global pandemic was declared.

In Canada, many leaders are suggesting we may be in variations of 'social distancing' until at least July, with further unpredictability stretching beyond that.

I don't know about you but, to me, the 'old normal' feels so utterly far away.

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The Power of Moving Moment to Moment

First, another huge wave of care coming your way!

Collectively, we feel poised for an unpredictable and difficult short-term future - even it is also certain to be threaded with love, resilience, courage, and the potentiality for transformative good.

I've actually been a bit ill myself this week (my doctor assesses probable and mild Covid19!) and - like most of you, no doubt - my family and I have been adjusting to quite radically altered new rhythms and routines on the home front.

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Big Care (& Simple Tips for Pandemic Times)

Wow, this historic moment on the planet!


First of all, sending you a huge whoosh of care and a massive virtual hug.

Many of you are probably already taking measures to support 'social distancing' and cancelling everything as a prevention tool to help our health care systems, providers, and communities in the coming months - especially the most vulnerable to Covid19.

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How to Handle Self-Doubt in the Midst of Change

Today is the last day I’m sharing a written blog post with you.

This is because change lies ahead and (drum roll, please)…..

I’m starting a podcast in March!

The transition to the new medium starts now.

I’ve been dreaming about this new venture for months and can’t quite believe I’m really turning it into a reality: I’ve hired a podcast editor, set a launch date, ordered my recording gear and started brainstorming names.

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How Will You Live in the 2020's?

This past New Year’s Eve, I lay awake in my parent-in-laws’ home around eleven at night, beside my young, sleeping children, unable to settle.

I waited for my partner, Dan, to come to bed, then told him I was feeling existential angst (Happy New Year’s, honey!) ;) and asked if we could talk, so that I could (hopefully) soothe my rattled nervous system.

I launched into my fears and contemplations on the very cusp of 2020: 

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Easing into 2020: Creating Space for the New

I was going to write you a post all about the coming decade for humanity - and your role in it. (Yeah, I was going to start on that light note! ;))

But I’m pushing that theme ahead by another couple of weeks and instead kicking off with a couple of questions for you:

  • As we embark on 2020, do you feel full of pep and vigor, ready to dive into the year?

  • Is your inner landscape like a fresh clean slate: you’re poised and eager for change?

If you’re saying, ‘Yes! Yes! That’s me!’ I send the angels singing on high to bless your aspirations and send out a whoop and cheer as you step forward into your year. 

However, feel free to stop reading: this post isn’t for you. 

Onwards with your energetic bad self and I can’t wait to see what you create in 2020! :)

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Nourish Your Life with a Year End Review

It’s that time when many will begin to anticipate 2024 and start churning out furious new goals.

 Learn why I’ve ditched resolutions and believe in the power of a Year-End Review… I’ll share my favourite tools and tips with you to protect space for silence, stillness and reflection.

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